Work With Me | Alisa Stoddard Coaching
Alisa Stoddard Coaching

You want connection. You want sex. But nothing you try seems to work.

I help high-achieving men rebuild trust, communication, and intimacy – without begging, blowing up, or trying to “fix” her.

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Does this sound familiar?

You’ve tried everything - talking it out, giving her space, trying harder, helping more. But nothing works. The more you give, the more it seems like she pulls away.

You want to feel appreciated. You want her to look at you like she used to. But the distance just keeps growing - and deep down, you're starting to wonder if it’s too late to fix.

You’re exhausted from trying to be who everyone needs you to be. At work, you're respected. At home, you're invisible.

The sex is gone - or worse, it feels like a chore. You don't feel like a partner. You feel like a paycheck.

And now that the kids are older, there's no hiding from the truth:
This marriage isn’t what you thought it would be. And you can’t imagine living this way for the next 10… 20… 30 years.

But here's what you need to know:
You're not broken. She's not the enemy. And this can change - starting with you.

Here's what we can do to solve that:

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1-on-1 Program

  • Three months (12) private coaching calls
  • Option to continue private coaching calls beyond three months
  • Concept worksheets
  • Homework, as applicable
  • Recap notes from our private call
  • Recorded video playback, if desired
  • Email support in between calls
  • Individualized Zoom calls tailored to your needs teaching my 12 concepts
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You want intimacy in your relationship, but you just can’t seem to connect.

Let’s change that.

There is hope for your marriage – but it starts with a new approach. If what you’ve tried so far hasn’t worked, doing more of the same won’t fix it.

What you need isn’t a magic fix for her. What you need is clarity, emotional tools, and a new way of showing up – one that actually builds trust and connection.

When we work together, you’ll learn how to:

✔ Feel genuinely appreciated and respected in your relationship
✔ Build real confidence and stop relying on others to validate your worth
✔ Communicate with calm and clarity – even in the heat of conflict

As emotional connection grows, intimacy follows – naturally and without pressure.

Are you ready to take the first step?

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What Changes When You Start Showing Up Differently

This isn’t just about better communication or more sex.
It’s about changing how you show up – in your relationship, in conflict, and in how you see yourself.

Here’s what that looks like:

Before:
You avoid conflict, walk on eggshells, or explode when you’ve had enough.
After:
You handle tough moments with calm and confidence – and feel proud of how you showed up.

Before:
She pulls away the moment you try to connect.
After:
She starts leaning in again – because the tension has dropped and something feels different.

Before:
You question your worth and feel like a failure at home.
After:
You feel grounded, clear, and capable – no matter how she responds.

Before:
Sex is either off the table or painful to ask for.
After:
You create emotional safety – and for the first time in a long time, intimacy feels possible again.

You don’t have to keep living like this. Let’s talk about what can change – starting with you.

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What clients are saying

Alisa is a genius bullshit slayer! She never, not once, believed the stories I was using to make myself miserable. She witnesses my ‘problems’ from the up-on-the-mountain perspective and then guides me up there with her. If you come expecting to have your victimhood validated, you will be disappointed. She courageously unveils truth without even a hint of shaming for thought errors. She is a safe place to be vulnerable and explore the monsters in your mind. Hire her!

M. Drew

“Alisa helped me connect back with myself to work on my relationship with me. This help me by being able to be more happy with myself and understand how my actions and feelings are mine and not anyone else’s. I have been able to help my kids with their feelings and actions and be a better father. I have been told that I look a lot happier than I have been over the past year. Thank you Alisa!!”

C. W.

Alisa has helped me understand that I am in control of my future and that I have responsibilities to myself in addition to others in my life. She has helped me face up to some uncomfortable realities about how I have let others have too much influence on how I feel about myself and my own happiness. I have developed a lot more confidence in myself, a better ability to find love and satisfaction in my family and personal relationships and more certainty about how I can feel good about myself and the direction my life is going.
 Anynomous

“When I started life coaching by Alisa, I wasn’t sure how much I needed it. I thought it would be good to try, but thought my life was pretty balanced and my thought processes were good. I have decided that everyone could benefit from life coaching. I found relationship beliefs I was holding onto that I needed to let go of and was able to once it was brought to my attention. I can see clearer the excuses I give myself are just excuses and the importance of setting goals. One of the biggest gifts Alisa gave me was the recognition to value myself more. This has helped with confidence in work and in my personal life. There is more I want to work on and Alisa has helped me to know where to start.”

Rebecca D.

Common Questions

When will calls be held?

1-on-1 calls are held weekly, via Zoom, at a mutually agreed upon time. You can choose from day, evening, or weekend time slots.

 

Group calls will be held approximately five times per month held on different days, including weekends, at varied times. You’ll get an email at the beginning of each month detailing when calls will be held and how to access that month’s concepts.

What are live calls like?

1-on-1 calls are held on Zoom. Each week we will review how you are implementing prior concepts and then I will teach you another concept that fits best with what you are currently going through.

 

Group calls are held via Zoom and as many people as possible will be coached during the scheduled call time. All attendees will be able to hear me coach the group member. I prefer to coach people on camera, but it’s not required. You can volunteer to be coached or just listen. There is a ton of value in hearing others are experiencing similar things.

What if I cannot attend?

1-on-1 calls will be rescheduled to ensure you can take advantage of all twelve sessions.

 

Group calls may be watched live or via replay. Everything will be posted on the program content page where you can view or listen to missed calls.

Will you be talking about religion?

Only if you do. I coach a variety of people with a variety of backgrounds. I understand the complexities of the LDS church, however, the concepts are valuable to most situations.

What topics are covered?

Topics include things like relationship expectations, recognizing emotions, how to build confidence, conflict resolution and much more.

I want to join but I'm not sure this will work.

I understand that you may have tried different approaches in the past that didn’t seem to help, and you may feel uncertain about investing in yourself in this way. It’s important to recognize that without learning new skills, you may continue to experience the same outcomes you’ve been getting.

 

If I were to ask you how much you’d be willing to pay to see a positive change in your relationship, it’s likely that you would place a high value on it. We are generally willing to invest in things that we truly value. So, where does this investment in improving your relationship fall on your list of priorities?

How long will I have access?

You will have access to program materials and replay content as long as you are in the program. They will be available via video and audio.

How much time will this take?

Each call is one hour long, and group members often find that they receive more value than they initially expect from these sessions. Whether you choose to participate in one call a month or attend all of them, and whether you watch them live or later, each concept covered in the program can have a significant impact on your life and provide insights into areas where you may need to work. Getting coached live during these calls can be particularly beneficial in gaining valuable guidance and support.

How can I pay? Do you offer payment plans?

You can pay in full, monthly, bi-weekly or weekly.

Is this covered by insurance / HSA?

That depends on your insurance and employee benefits. Check with them. When you join the program, you will receive an email receipt with which to seek reimbursement.

What if I want to cancel?

My programs are designed as a comprehensive package and are not offered as a month-to-month membership. When you enroll, you are committing to the entire package. While you have the option to pay incrementally, please note that it is expected you will remain committed to the series and cannot come in and out of the program.

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