Want more intimacy in your relationship?
I can help.
I’m Alisa Stoddard, a certified Life Coach. I’m a problem solver, a results getter, a straight talker, and a non-judgmental place to lay it all out on the line.
I help in areas like:
If your relationship lacks intimacy, I can help you overcome common obstacles. The things keeping you from connection are often not the obvious things. My guidance helps those who have tried everything and feel like they are almost out of options.
Blow-ups and suppressing your emotions are both exhausting. Not to mention the guilt that comes after. I’ll teach you to understand why this happens and how to prevent resentment and explosive outbursts in the first place.
Outwardly it looks like you have a great life, inside you feel like a failure or an imposter…but only in some areas of your life. You probably feel unappreciated and resent how hard you work when no one seems to notice or care. Feeling more confident and validated is within reach.
You’ve worked hard to create a nice life. Unfortunately, that pressure may take a toll on relationships with those you love the most. I can help you create stronger bonds with your wife, kids, and family. Bonus: These skills can even help you professionally.
Who I am
I’ve struggled with intimacy in my relationships too so I know where your wife is coming from. I’m probably like her. I’ve experienced how the lack of intimacy can contribute to the demise of a relationship. What surprised me the most was realizing the things I thought were straining my marriage weren’t the real issues, in fact, they weren’t even on my radar.
With the help of coaching, my husband and I have created a strong marriage – even through really challenging circumstances. What’s really causing strain in your relationship isn’t what you think. There is hope for you too.
You probably feel like you have tried everything: begged, issued ultimatums, tried to live without, even gone to counseling. You probably came out of counseling thinking that you’d just spent a ton of money to hear your wife complain about you and you still don’t know what to do to fix things. This is where coaching comes in. My 1-on-1 coaching will teach you actionable strategies that have the potential to change the dynamics of your relationship. If you are worried that this might be the beginning of the end, let’s talk. Working with me can make all the difference whether you decide to stay or part ways. The good news is that you won’t repeat old, ineffective patterns with whatever is next.
Men's Small Group Coaching
In my group program, we cover things like feeling the appreciation you really want, and ways to increase intimacy, not just physical but emotional too. You’ll learn how to handle challenges in a more effective way that will leave you feeling optimistic, not wondering if things will ever get better. In the end, you’ll feel more confident, more emotional control and more satisfaction in your marriage. Group coaching is less intensive but still has enormous power to transform your life.
Improving your marriage is within reach, but it requires learning new approaches. It’s evident that repeating the same behaviors won’t lead to different results. If you already knew how to resolve the issues, you would have! I can guide you in gaining more confidence and developing effective communication skills to break free from the cycle of arguments that revolve around superficial matters, rather than addressing the root causes. Together, we can work on communication that actually works to foster a more fulfilling and harmonious marriage.
When your relationship feels fractured, it may seem almost impossible to establish a meaningful connection. You may be struggling to communicate effectively, engage in activities without misunderstandings, or have conversations beyond schedules and parenting leaving you at a loss on how to start reconnecting. My approaches will help you transform your relationship dynamics. As the pressure eases, the opportunities for genuine connection can increase. I’ll teach you how.
As someone who places a high value on providing for your family, it can be disheartening when your efforts go unnoticed and unappreciated. Constantly wondering if anyone recognizes the hard work you put in can lead to resentment. In a marriage, this resentment can erode intimacy. It’s important to break this destructive cycle. By addressing and resolving the underlying issues, it is possible to create a healthier, more fulfilling marriage where appreciation and recognition are nurtured. Together, we can work towards building a thriving relationship.
Free On-Demand Training
What most men have been taught about how to feel appreciated and have more intimacy in their relationships is all wrong. They blame all the wrong things for their unhappiness.
Want to know how to have a better marriage and feel appreciated?
Join me in my free training. I’ll share the steps I teach all of my clients, to help them discover what is really getting in the way of experiencing the intimacy and appreciation they really want.
Click the link. Watch the webinar, and let’s talk.
What clients are saying:
``Alisa is a genius bulls**t slayer! She never, not once, believed the stories I was using to make myself miserable. She witnesses my 'problems' from the up-on-the-mountain perspective and then guides me up there with her. If you come expecting to have your victimhood validated, you will be disappointed. She courageously unveils truth without even a hint of shaming. She is a safe place to be vulnerable and explore the monsters in your mind. Hire her!``
``Coaching from Alisa was goal oriented with easily applicable concepts. Perfect for addressing those issues that have been dragging you down for a long time.``
``I have seen significant growth in my ability to recognize faulty thinking. I realize that I may not be able to change my circumstances, but I can control my thoughts and therefore change my feelings and actions. I have given myself permission to feel my feelings instead of running from them or ignoring them. Just being more aware of my thoughts and being more intentional helps me to cope with hard feelings and process difficult situations. I am learning to rewrite my stories of my past from a victim mentality to one of empowerment and strength.``
What are group calls like?
Group calls are held via Zoom and as many people as possible will be coached during the scheduled call time. All attendees will be able to hear me coach the group member. You can volunteer to be coached or just listen. There is a ton of value in hearing others are experiencing similar things.
What will I learn?
In both of my programs, I cover a range of valuable concepts that are designed to help you improve various aspects of your life. These concepts include addressing relationship struggles, developing emotional depth, building self-confidence, and many more.
Can I use insurance?
That depends on your insurance and employee benefits. Check with HR or insurance to confirm. When you join the program, you will receive an email receipt with which to seek reimbursement.
Will it work?
Probably the best way to answer this is to 1) read what my clients say and 2) ask yourself if what you are doing now is working. If you want more of the same, don’t change a thing. If you aren’t satisfied with how things are going then you have to make some changes and try some new things. This program changes lives. Will yours be one of them?