I’m Alisa Stoddard, a certified Life Coach. I’m a problem solver, a results getter, a straight talker, and a non-judgmental place to lay it all out on the line.
If intimacy feels distant in your relationship, you’re not alone—and it’s not your fault. The real obstacles to connection often aren’t what you think.
I help men who’ve tried everything and feel like they’re running out of options. With the right guidance, you can stop feeling stuck and start creating the closeness, trust, and desire you’ve been missing.
Explosive reactions leave you feeling guilty. Shutting down leaves you feeling unheard. Either way, it’s exhausting—and it only builds more distance.
You don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle. I’ll help you understand why emotions take over and teach you how to manage them in a way that strengthens your connection—instead of damaging it.
On the outside, your life looks great. But inside, you wrestle with feeling like a failure—or worse, a fraud. Not all the time, just in certain areas.
You work hard, yet it feels like no one truly sees or appreciates it. The resentment builds. The doubt creeps in.
But here’s the truth: You don’t have to prove your worth—you just need to start seeing it. Confidence, validation, and the respect you crave are closer than you think.
You’ve worked hard to create a good life. But the very drive that built your success may be the same thing creating distance with the people who matter most.
You don’t have to let pressure and expectations come between you and your loved ones. I’ll help you rebuild connection, communicate better, and create relationships that feel strong, supportive, and fulfilling. Bonus: These same skills will improve your professional life, too.
I know what it’s like to feel disconnected in a relationship. I’ve been where your wife is. I’ve felt the frustration of missing intimacy and watched how it slowly erodes a marriage.
But what shocked me the most? The things I thought were causing the strain weren’t the real issues at all. They weren’t even on my radar.
Coaching changed everything. My husband and I rebuilt our marriage—even through incredibly tough circumstances. And here’s what I want you to know: The problems in your relationship aren’t what you think they are. There’s a way forward, and I can help you find it.
You’ve probably tried everything—begging, ultimatums, even counseling. And if you’ve been to counseling, you might have walked away feeling like you just paid to listen to your wife list everything you’re doing wrong… without a clear path forward.
This is where coaching changes the game.
My 1-on-1 coaching gives you real, actionable strategies that shift the dynamics of your relationship—so you’re not stuck repeating the same frustrating cycle.
If you’re worried this might be the beginning of the end, let’s talk. Whether you stay together or part ways, working with me ensures one thing: You won’t keep making the same mistakes. You’ll finally know how to create deeper connection, real intimacy, and a relationship that works.
In my group program, we cover things like feeling the appreciation you really want, and ways to increase intimacy, not just physical but emotional too. You’ll learn how to handle challenges in a more effective way that will leave you feeling optimistic, not wondering if things will ever get better. In the end, you’ll feel more confident, more emotional control and more satisfaction in your marriage. Group coaching is less intensive but still has enormous power to transform your life.
A better marriage starts with better communication—but not the kind you’ve already tried. If repeating the same conversations, arguments, or silent treatments worked, you wouldn’t be here.
Real change happens when you learn how to communicate in a way that actually gets through. I’ll help you gain the confidence and skills to break free from surface-level fights and start addressing the real issues. When you do, conversations become easier, tensions ease, and connection naturally follows.
When your relationship feels distant, reconnecting can seem impossible. Conversations revolve around schedules and responsibilities, and even simple interactions feel tense or disconnected. You want more, but you’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’ll help you shift the dynamics of your relationship so connection happens naturally—not through pressure, but through real understanding and meaningful interactions. When you learn how to create that space, everything changes.
You work hard to provide for your family—but when your efforts go unnoticed, it stings. Over time, the lack of appreciation turns into resentment, and that resentment starts chipping away at intimacy.
This cycle doesn’t have to continue. I’ll help you address what’s really going on beneath the surface, so you can rebuild a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and seen. When appreciation flows both ways, connection deepens, and your marriage thrives.
Everything You’ve Been Taught About Intimacy & Appreciation Is Wrong
Most men are blaming the wrong things for their unhappiness in marriage—and it’s keeping them stuck.
If you feel unappreciated, disconnected, or like no matter what you do, it’s never enough, it’s time to see what’s really holding you back.
Join me in this free training, where I’ll share the exact steps I teach my clients to help them break out of this cycle and finally experience the intimacy and appreciation they’ve been missing.
✅ Discover what’s actually getting in the way of a better marriage
✅ Learn how to stop repeating the same frustrating patterns
✅ Get the tools to turn things around—starting today
🔹 Click the link. Watch the training. Let’s talk. 🔹
No guesswork. No fluff. Just real answers that work.
Group calls are held via Zoom and as many people as possible will be coached during the scheduled call time. All attendees will be able to hear me coach the group member. You can volunteer to be coached or just listen. There is a ton of value in hearing others are experiencing similar things.
In both of my programs, I cover a range of valuable concepts that are designed to help you improve various aspects of your life. These concepts include addressing relationship struggles, developing emotional depth, building self-confidence, and many more.
That depends on your insurance and employee benefits. Check with HR or insurance to confirm. When you join the program, you will receive an email receipt with which to seek reimbursement.
Probably the best way to answer this is to 1) read what my clients say and 2) ask yourself if what you are doing now is working. If you want more of the same, don’t change a thing. If you aren’t satisfied with how things are going then you have to make some changes and try some new things. This program changes lives. Will yours be one of them?
