The sex is gone. The connection is gone. You’re walking on eggshells, and you don’t know how to fix it.
I’m Alisa Stoddard, and I help men change the dynamic in their relationship so they can stop chasing sex and start building real connection.
If intimacy feels out of reach, you’re not alone. You’ve tried being helpful. You’ve tried backing off. You’ve probably even asked for more sex directly – but it only seems to push her further away.
I work with men who feel rejected, confused, and tired of walking on eggshells. Together, we uncover the real reasons she’s pulling back – so you can rebuild trust and connection in a way that feels real again.
When emotional safety returns, intimacy does too. Not out of obligation – but because she actually wants to be close again.
You don’t want to blow up. You don’t want to shut down. But when emotions take over, it’s hard to do anything else.
I’ll help you understand why your reactions hit so hard – and give you tools to stay calm, grounded, and in control. You’ll learn how to handle conflict without damaging the connection, and start responding in ways that make you feel proud.
You’ve built success. But inside, you still question if you’re good enough – at home, at work, and as a man.
You push yourself harder. But the more you do, the more invisible you feel. That quiet voice of doubt doesn’t go away.
I’ll help you stop outsourcing your worth – to your wife, your job, or your achievements – and start seeing yourself differently. When you believe you’re enough, everything else starts to shift.
You work hard. You provide. But it feels like no one at home sees how much you give.
I’ll help you show up in your relationships without resentment or pressure – and create the kind of connection where you feel wanted, respected, and appreciated again.
And here’s the bonus: when you lead with emotional strength at home, it doesn’t just change your marriage. It changes how you lead everywhere else.
I know what it’s like to feel disconnected in a relationship. I’ve been where your wife is – pulling away, guarding my heart, unsure if things could ever feel good again.
And I’ve watched up close what happens when men feel unwanted, unappreciated, and confused about how everything got so cold.
What shocked me most? The things I thought were causing the tension weren’t the real issues at all. They weren’t even close.
Coaching changed everything. My husband and I rebuilt our connection – even through some of the hardest circumstances a couple can face. And now, I help men like you do the same.
Here’s what I want you to know:
The problems in your marriage aren’t what you think they are. And the solution isn’t about fixing her – it’s about finally understanding what’s really going on, and learning how to show up in a way that makes her want to connect again.
Let’s rebuild the connection you both want – starting with you.
You’re one conversation away from understanding what’s really going wrong – and how to fix it.
You’ve probably tried everything – talking it out, giving her space, helping more, even counseling. And if you’ve been to counseling, you might’ve left feeling like you just sat there while your wife listed everything you’re doing wrong… without any clear direction for what to do next.
This is where coaching changes the game.
My 1-on-1 coaching isn’t about talking in circles or rehashing the past. It’s about real, practical strategies that shift how you show up – so you can finally break the cycle of disconnection and start seeing change that actually sticks.
If you’re worried this might be the beginning of the end, let’s talk. Whether you stay together or not, one thing is certain: you won’t keep repeating the same mistakes. You’ll understand what’s really going wrong – and exactly how to start fixing it.
You don’t need to guess your way through this anymore.
Let’s get you the clarity, connection, and confidence you’ve been missing.
A stronger marriage starts with better communication – but not the kind that leads to arguments, shutdowns, or circling the same fight again and again.
If repeating yourself or “talking it through” hasn’t worked, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’ve never been taught how to communicate in a way that actually gets through.
I’ll help you build the confidence and clarity to say what matters, hear what she’s really saying, and stop defaulting to defensiveness or silence. When communication shifts, tension drops – and connection can finally grow.
When your marriage feels more like roommates – or like you’re just managing a shared to-do list – it’s hard to know how to reconnect.
Conversations revolve around schedules, logistics, and responsibilities. You want closeness, but even simple moments feel tense. You’re not sure how to fix it – so you either avoid it or try harder and hope something changes.
That’s where I come in. I’ll help you shift how you show up so connection becomes something you create – not something you chase. When emotional safety is rebuilt, the warmth returns. And everything starts to change.
You give everything – your time, your energy, your income – and still feel like it’s not enough.
You clean the kitchen, take care of the kids, fix the broken stuff. And instead of feeling appreciated, you feel invisible. Or worse – criticized.
That sting of not being valued builds resentment. And that resentment? It slowly chokes the intimacy and connection you’re working so hard to restore.
I’ll help you unpack what’s really happening underneath the lack of appreciation – so you can stop keeping score, stop proving your worth, and start rebuilding a relationship where both of you feel seen, respected, and wanted again.
Why What You’ve Tried Isn’t Working – And What to Do Instead
Most men are blaming the wrong things for the breakdown in their marriage. And it’s keeping them stuck.
They think the problem is her… when really, it’s how they’re showing up – and they don’t even realize it.
If you feel disconnected, rejected, or like nothing you do is ever enough, this free training will show you what’s really going on – and exactly what to do about it.
You’ll learn the same steps I teach my private clients to help them stop the cycle of tension, disconnection, and transactional sex – and finally rebuild the intimacy and appreciation they’ve been missing.
✅ Uncover what’s actually driving the distance in your marriage
✅ Break the habits keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns
✅ Learn the exact mindset and tools to start changing everything – today
🔹 Watch the training. Then let’s talk. 🔹
Because you don’t have to keep living like this.
In my 1:1 coaching, you’ll learn how to stop reacting out of frustration and start leading with clarity, confidence, and emotional strength.
We’ll work through relationship dynamics, emotional patterns, communication struggles, self-worth, and more. Every concept I teach is designed to help you show up differently – so you can finally create the intimacy, connection, and appreciation you’ve been missing.
Coaching isn’t typically covered by insurance, but you’ll receive an email receipt that you can submit for potential reimbursement. Check with your HR department or provider to confirm if your plan includes coaching benefits.
If what you’ve been doing hasn’t worked, then doing more of the same won’t change anything.
This coaching works because it goes deeper. It helps you stop trying to “fix her” and start showing up in ways that create real change – at home, and in how you feel about yourself.
If you want results, be willing to do something different. My clients do this work and watch their lives shift.
Will yours be one of them?
